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Coping with Infertility

Posted on January 23rd, 2013 by | 1 views

by Jennifer Bessel, Ph.D.

Infertility is a stressful state. If you are struggling with infertility, stress creates a vicious circle. You get stressed because you can't conceive, which makes you more stressed, which makes it even harder to conceive.

Fertility treatments are stressful too. This cycle can result in feeling out of control. Feeling out of control of your emotions, your thoughts, and your body is common when coping with infertility.

Coping Tools:

Having many tools to cope with the feelings and stress is an important part of getting through this experience.

Relaxation is a key tool for reducing the stress response that can impair fertility. Yoga, meditation and breathing are all ways to increase the relaxation response.

Try This: Imagine that your belly is like a balloon‚ as you breathe in slowly you fill up the balloon and as you let go slowly‚ you allow the balloon to let go. As you let go‚ imagine that your stresses are leaving as you feel your body relax. Do this many times until you feel a sense of calm.

Change your Thinking and you will find that you experience less depression, less anxiety and less negative emotional states.

Try This: Start writing down some of your negative thoughts. Notice thoughts that are extreme such as I will never get pregnant.
Challenge the truth of these thoughts and reword them to something manageable. For instance, it's been a longer road than I imagined, yet I have some more options to explore to conceive and I can also find other ways to make my dreams come true.

Stress Management can help you to keep your life in balance. Sometimes you may need to take some things off your plate so that you can get through this process as infertility treatments can be costly and time consuming.

Try This: What are some things that you haven't been doing, but enjoy? Remember to nurture yourself and do things that you enjoy while you go through this process.

Communication Skills are necessary so that you can reach out for support and set boundaries when needed.

Try This: Try preparing a positive way to respond when someone asks you the dreaded question, when are you going to have children? First remember, that people typically mean well even if it feels insensitive and respond with something that feels good to you. Yes, having children is important to us and we are doing everything we can to allow this happen.

Get Support: Online support and organizations such as are all good places to find information and to talk with others who understand what you are going through. Getting professional help from a licensed psychologist/therapist who understands these issues can also be helpful.

Hypnosis for Fertility can help to reduce stress, increase confidence in your body again, and instill a sense of control. Hypnosis transforms the fear and frustration that you are feeling, providing you with tools that enable you to achieve the relaxation necessary for a calm, peaceful, positive state of mind. Hypnosis also addresses negative thought patterns that develop, helping you to transform your thinking and helping you to feel more positive and better able to cope.

Jennifer Bessel, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist PSY16404
3511 Camino del Rio South, Suite 500, San Diego, CA 92108

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